Bevendre

hinatasbutt:

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I must admit, I’m a little sad to see Ask Princess Molestia go.

The blog did perpetuate rape culture and made jokes about molestation and rape, neither of which should be joked about.  However, the blog was written and presented in a way that kept it relatively clean.  At its worst it was on par with Family Guy, which has a substantially larger audience and reach, and at its best could be legitimately amusing and fun.  I tolerated it at its worst, and I enjoyed it at its best.

JJ’s blog was what introduced me to tumblr, and to the community outside of the show as a whole.  I doubt that I would have found my place here if not for Mindless Gonzo’s dubs of the blog, and for that I thank JJ and what he did with an iteration of a character that could have been, and has been, portrayed much much worse by others.

Just because Molestia is taken down does not mean that there has been a victory against rape culture, and if it did the victory would be beyond minuscule.  Even as one of the largest tumblrpon personalities, Molestia had a very small global audience, and its loss is akin to removing a single small sore in an attempt to cure chicken pox.  The sentiment of DWM was valiant, but could have been spent targeting the source of the issue rather than a distant reflection of it.

I would encourage further dissolution of rape culture, but please, PLEASE, focus on something other than one person’s outlet with a small audience and instead on the issue itself and the recovery of victims.

It is okay to be white, or black, or Asian, or what have you.
It is okay to be a man, or a woman, or whatever gender you identify as.
It is okay to be gay, or straight, or bisexual, asexual or whatever preference you have.
It is okay to be cisgender, just as it is okay to be transgender.
These are things that we do not choose, and cannot change.  These are the things that make up WHAT we are, but they do not define WHO we are.

WHO we are is determined by the choices we make in life.  It is not what we like, but how we share it.  It is not who we like, but how we interact with them and show them the respect they may or may not deserve.  If you attack someone, verbally, emotionally or otherwise, based on WHAT they are, and do so with terms meant to offend them like ‘tranny’, or 'cisscum’ or what have you, then WHO you are is an asshole, and you have chosen to be such.