Bevendre

human-p1us:

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cheshireinthemiddle:

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aceofsaves:

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Someone has never grown up as a boy

Oh look, someone who has never grown up as a male, assuming how males grow up. That we don’t get told the same thing. you’ll fit right into to tumblr.

“man up”

“men don’t cry”

“be a man”

“that’s not manly”

“get muscles”

“eat meat”

“play with action figures instead”

“be loud”

“No hitting girls ”(but not boys)

“be tough”

“men protect girls even at the cost of their lives” (check like…any action children’s movie or…adult movie)

“It isn’t manly to do that.”

“boys are dirty”

“snips, snails, and puppy dog tails”

“boys are stupid”

And it is even worse if you are gay growing up and your parents don’t approve (like most gay people growing up over the past 20 years in the US)

“no cooking, that isn’t manly”

“you need guy friends”

“go to the gym”

“be sure to work hard enough to support two people. you might get married someday”

“go hit on girls”

“pay for meals for girls”

“that’s what boys are supposed to do”

Maybe shut your biased one-sided mouth and stop spreading misinformation. This kind of thing is why the struggles of men are joked about and not taken seriously. Men must lead perfect lives and thus have nothing to worry about. We don’t worry about men who are overweight because they must not have any struggles from that. We don’t need to help the majority of depression victims because they’re men. We don’t need to help the majority of violence victims because they’re men. We can just laugh a man getting his penis cut off and put into a garbage disposal. It’s only a man.

I grew up being told what it is to be a man every step through my life. I was told that men have muscles, eat a lot, and get dirty. In most of the books I read and kids movies I watched, I was told that I need to risk my life for women. “women and children first”, “never hit a woman” (even if she was the one attacking), “protect women” (instead of protect people). I was told that their lives are held more value than mine.

I was told to grow up and find a good job, not for me, but so that I would be found attractive by a girl and so that I could spend money on her to make her happy, but not expecting the same treatment. I was told to date women by picking them up, driving them to a restaurant, paying tons of money on them, buy them a gift, and drop them off. Of course none of the girls that I went to school with were told to do the same thing.  ”Because that’s what being a man is.”

I was told that I wasn’t aloud to cook because “it wasn’t manly enough”, even though it’s what I liked to do. Even though I didn’t have any friends and didn’t like going outside, I was forced out because “boys like to run around and get dirty”. I was told that women don’t like flabby men and that I should get thinner (more manly) to attract a woman.

How dare you assume that I as a boy was not constantly told what it is to be a man. How dare you spread that only women get told that.

It’s a horrible thing when influential people spread misinformation like this because more often than not, people will believe you, whether you know what you’re talking about or not.

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(via thatstrangeowl)