Bevendre

ruuqo:

If someone jn your family insists you go with them on a family trip or event, don’t be an ungrateful little shit. Go with them. And don’t be a child on the way either, they took time and money to take the family out, don’t ruin it for others.

How many times do you get to spend occasions like this with your family? How often can you otherwise do whatever else it was you were doing?

Love your family and don’t be a jerk. It’s not fair for you to ruin everyone’s day by being an ungrateful shit just because you don’t seem to understand family time is important.

You wouldn’t like it if you organised something with your whole family and then one of them refused to participate until you forced them to go because it was a GOOD FAMILY ACTIVITY and then they ruin it for everyone by being in a bad mood, would you? No so don’t do it yourself either!

It depends on the family, the activity and their relationship.  A lot of families don’t get along because family activities are forced upon them by one or two members that drag the rest along out of a misguided need to create what they think are necessary memories or experiences.

Issues come up with families for all kinds of reasons, and forcing members to go along that don’t want to participate for one reason or another doesn’t help that.  Guilt-tripping a family member for not wanting to do something with family just because their family helps their issues even less and if anything will only make them want to distance themselves from their family even more.

It’s not fair for you to ruin someone else’s day by being difficult when you’re being dragged along, but at the same time it’s not fair to be dragged along against your will or desires and be shamed for having a different desire or opinion.

Love your family, but live your own life and don’t be governed by your family because they’re family.  If they have an activity planned that they want you to participate in, then they should ask and if you can’t go for whatever reason then they should respect that.