Bevendre

Technically it’s still Tuesday. sooo I wanna ask a possibly offensive/too personal question, If that’s alright? In a previous ask, you said you identified as asexual, and I was wondering if you would mind sharing how you came to that realization? I ask, because I’m trying to identify myself with a label, and I’m kind of confused about the difference between finding someone physically and sexually attractive. I’ve never had ‘dirty’ thoughts about anyone, but Idk if that’s 'cause I’ve never had any type of relationship or?? I mean, despite being college age, I still find sex 'icky’, while, at the same time, the 'do it yourself’ thing is something I couldn’t live without (tmi?? sorry!!) I definitely old enough to have figured this out by myself :-/

I’m not asking for you to solve my problems, and I hope I’m not bothering you.

But, I’d really like some insight from people who have already fit themselves inside a label (if that makes sense??)

It’s quite alright, I don’t mind talking about it.  I consider myself asexual because simply put I’m not really interested in sex, nor am I really attracted to people in general.  I may be using the term incorrectly, but from my understanding asexual is simply a lack of attraction to either gender and or a general disinterest in sex, so I feel the label to be fitting.

I’ve been lonely for a long time, I’m 21 and I’ve never been in a relationship.  A large part of this, I feel, is that I don’t get physically attracted to people.  I’ll understand that some people are beautiful, and even absolutely stunning, but looks alone don’t do anything for me.  I don’t get attracted to people by sight, I become attracted to people through familiarity and understanding, and as such it takes a LONG time for me to develop an attraction for someone.

I hope this helps somewhat, even if my definitions are likely very wrong.